I should be flattered, but I’m really not

Written on January 10, 2010 at 3:42 pm
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A friend (erm… an acquaintance, more like) recently sent me an email that went something like this (paraphrased with typos and spelling issues corrected – also, used the Canadian/UK spellings as opposed to American spellings, because I’m nit-picky like that – my comments are the ones in brackets):

Hey Michelle!!!!!!!! How are you?? Happy new year! Hope school is going well!!!!! [Holy @#$%, overuse for exclamation marks, much?]

Anyways, you know how you make jewellery? [I do?!] I was hoping you could tell me what I would need to buy to make my own!!! [Why so many exclamation marks? I going to have to charge you $1 for each one you misuse. I think I’m up to $10+ now – my craft habit thanks you.] I only have $15 to spend and I’d really like to make whole sets since it’s so cheap to make – I want to sell them online [You and everyone else who’s ever made a pair of earrings.] So if you could give me a list of things that I would need, that’d be great! Could I also get some beads from you? I know you have a lot and you could probably spare some. I’d like them in different shades of the colour yellow.

Thanks! Love! [Again with the exclamation marks!]
*Name removed to protect the rather rude and pushy*

This made me face palm. Don’t worry, the person who sent this doesn’t read my blog (or my crafts site, for that matter).

Because, you know, the only purpose of me buying beads(and other materials) is to give them away to anyone who asks – right? Yeah… Sure. I mean I could spare some. If I a) liked the person and b) was willing to help the person out. But not after that disgustingly badly worded email.

Here was my reply:

*Name removed to protect the rather rude and pushy*

Happy new year. School’s going decently, I guess. It’s only been one week of the new term though, so I will wait and reserve judgment on my classes until after most of my midterms.

Anyways, for making jewellery, you’ll want to get a set of pliers (the kind for making jewellery – not the large types you find in hardware stores). You’ll want round nose, needle nose and flat nose pliers. All three alone, if you’re getting decent ones, will probably go for $10 each. You can get tubes of seed beads from $1-$5 per tube, you can also get strands of beads from $3-15 per strand. Sorry, I can’t afford to spare any beads right now – poor student and all. I’d suggest going to the store when there’s a sale or buying jewellery from thrift stores and reworking them into something different.

– Michelle

I really dislike people who think that making jewellery (or crafting anything) is a cheap hobby.

The only reason I don’t think of my hobbies as being “really” expensive is because I build my materials over a long period of time (been making jewellery since ~2000/2001 and seriously knitting & crocheting since ~2006). And while it can be inexpensive to make your own jewellery compared to commercially-available pieces that are mass-produced, it is still not a cheap hobby. I can going into my bead stash and pull out single beads that are several dollars each. I can pull out a pair of pliers that was over $20. If I were to sit down and do the math (which would probably make me ill from thinking about it), I probably have way more money invested in beads than I do in anything else in my house (including Blythe dolls, textbooks and my yarn stash).

I started off with inexpensive materials (i.e. a single pair of needle nose pliers, a bag of plastic beads, fishing line for stringing material*), but I grew out of all of that in order to move onto bigger and better things. If someone had told my 10-year-old self that I would one day have beads that cost more than $0.05/each, I probably would have laughed at the thought of it (however, I adore handmade lampwork beads and am willing to pay for them).

While I am willing to help out friends when they’re interested in the hobbies that I happen to do (i.e. making jewellery, crocheting, knitting, etc.) I am unlikely to be willing to help someone who actually straight out asks me to give them some of my stuff (like yellow beads? I just checked, I only have yellow beads in the form of Czech glass seed beads. And I’m keeping them). When one of my friends mentioned that she wanted to learn how to knit a scarf (simple ribbing for 6+ feet – she’s a crazy one), I offered to help because she confessed that she didn’t quite “get” it from the illustrations in a book. I was fine with helping her, she wasn’t asking me to give her a pair of needles and a ball or two of yarn – she didn’t even ask for help! (I don’t think she knew that I knitted at that point). But being asked, directly, to part with some of my crafting materials because I could “probably spare some”? Really?!

Yeah, I’m surprised that I even dignified them with a response.

* Ahem, don’t use fishing line for stringing material if you can help it. Nylon coated stainless steel wire is so much better (and also lasts longer). And please, for the love of all things good in the world, don’t use elastic unless it’s something for someone under the age of 10. It gets brittle, it snaps, it breaks, it easily gets cut by the inside of beads. Shall I go on?

7 Responses to “I should be flattered, but I’m really not”

  1. Lauren - Cakewalk says:

    That’s ridiculous. My parents got me a bunch of jewelry making stuff one year for Christmas and that was my ENTIRE gift because it can cost so much. I’ll gift someone with jewelry I’ve made, but sure as hell wouldn’t give my supplies away either.

  2. Jenna says:

    …They asked you for beads? Wow…People need to research these sorts of things on their own ^^;

  3. Kimm says:

    I don’t know why everyone thinks they can make jewelry and then sell it at craftfairs and or online to make an easy buck. If the person made their own hand blown glass or made something that was very unique. Then I’d look at their booth at a craft-fair or online but not if it took them less then 30 minutes to make something and call it again.

    Like Lauren I was given a tool box full of jewelry making and beads one christmas. So far I’ve only made stuff for myself and friends as presents but would never think about selling because I’m lazy and I know how much work it is to work at a craft-fair.

  4. Dez says:

    Seriously?! “Could I also get some beads from you? I know you have a lot and you could probably spare some.” SERIOUSLY!? WHAT THE HELL! Who honestly says something like that and doesn’t realize they are being kind of a twat? You don’t ask for something and say, “you have plenty. Spare some.” because you’re too damn cheap to invest and buy your own. Ugh.

  5. Georgina says:

    LOL. The person who wrote that email sounds strangely like someone else I know online who likes to make jewellery. A young immature one. XD

    I used to really like making jewellery but my beads weren’t amazing and I just made simple bracelets with simple beads in… simple patterns. I still have a huge bag of clear plastic beads. I attempted to make beaded bags at some point, but lost the patience. :(

    People should realise that WOW, just because you can afford something for yourself doesn’t mean you’re going to share. 😛 Sounds mean, but it’s completely reasonable. At least they weren’t rude about asking but that was pretty “in-your-face”.

  6. Jenni says:

    Beading is so expensive…and I hate people that ask for things randomly! Especially so many things in just one email :(

  7. Hannah says:

    I know how you feel… how people dare to even suggest what you do is a cheap activity or hobbies, seriously I don’t get it, if she thinks is so cheap why in the world is she asking for you to spare some beads…. not to mention that if it was random not so close friend this apply more… I think you were quite polite so kudos to you for being so nice :)

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